I am not sure how you would go about it but make sure you stick to what you want. I told everyone before DS#3 was born that i wouldn't have visitors until after my school kiddies had met him . I thought htat was reasonable ( same day just in the afternoon cause me c section was planned for morning) and my sister still turned up at lunch. I didn't want to make a drama because i just had a bub but now i a,m still angry a t her for it ( i know my issue and i need to let it go but yeah) So once you have decided what you want stick to it! Good luck!!